Brené Brown puts it this way, “When we deny the story, it defines us…” How do we keep from allowing our stories to define us?             Surprisingly, this action is another decision. No matter what has happened to us in the past, no matter how we have handled...

What lies have you believed about yourself? Eventually I realized I couldn’t be honest with anyone until I was honest with myself. So that was the first lie that I addressed.  Soon I learned how to describe what had happened in such a way as to identify with others...

The only thing worse than being in denial is being in denial and not knowing it.  I had come to my coach for help, and she had kindly brought to my attention that, although I could easily speak about the day my brother died, I could not address the truth of the...

What do you do when you get uncomfortable? When the negative feelings nag you? Become aware of the negative emotion and name it. If you are already aware of what is bothering you, you are ahead of the game. But if you don’t, or if you want to double-check your guess,...

Breakthrough happens the moment we make a choice and take action. This is not a once-and-for-all type of thing.  It’s the beginning of a transformational journey.   Forgiveness is often a process. Sometimes we may say the words, forgiving on an intellectual...